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What PRICE love?
You can’t put a price on love… or can you?
This topic came up at a party recently and, although it’s my personal experience, I was amazed at the results!
Despite being a dating coach, I don’t offer unsolicited advice when I’m not working… or at least try not to.
And holding my tongue has been a challenge whenever I run into a particular friend of a friend whom I’ll call DOE (for “Down on Everything”). I’m sure you have one in your life!
Despite being miserable in her lovelife — due to not having one – DOE has always put down online dating, despite seeing Beth and my success over the years. For the last ten years I’ve known her, she’s had the same regrets about her life…
“I waited to long to have kids… I’m lonely… I can’t find a good man…”
Along with the same complaints about online dating (which she’s never tried!)…
“Online Dating isn’t safe… it’s embarrassing… it’s for losers… “
DOE is certainly entitled to her opinion, but I couldn’t help but laugh when she declared at this party:
“Online Dating is a waste of money…”
Because whether or not a relationship is a good idea emotionally — it can be “A tale of two Pauls” –
You can quantify love it as a great idea financially! Here’s why:
When you find your mate and marry/live together, your fixed expenses are cut in half!
Rent, utilities, cable, internet, phone, insurance, and more!
Along with the luxuries of vacations, owning a boat, pets, etc.
At the party, always a quick thinker (!), I figured I’ve saved at least $1500 a month since being with my mate and declared to DOE,
“I must have saved thousands of dollars by using online dating!”
I was shocked when someone at the party, clearly better with numbers than myself,
“Karin, you’ve saved at least $90,000.00!*”
In addition, my husband John and I have purchased two income properties, which we never would have done if single.
You don’t have to be a real estate wizard to figure out how much money we’ve made buying property in Southern California in the last 5 years.
So how much should you spend on your quest to find a mate?
I believe it’s as much as you can afford IF you like being in love AND saving money!
*$1500 a month over 5 years.
If I live to my life expectancy, 45 more years, that’s $810,000.00 for a total of almost
a million dollars, just in savings!
5 November 2007 at 08:19
General question about investment & remaining on dating sites after you’ve met someone:
I have met someone through a dating site & we are casually trying things on a month or so later. Neither of us have talked about exclusivity or taking things further (in my case the jury is still out) but part of the reason it is out is because his profile is still up & active. This bothers me yet I don’t feel comfortable saying so. I think a lot of folks are addicted to the internet & the next dating fix. I further think that when things go really well on a date it seems to encourage men to want to stay around on whatever site they are on because they assume there are more like me!
So is the general rule of thumb communication? Is chivalry dead? I don’t feel like I should have to bring this up to the guy. I feel like his activity online is going to be the reason we don’t continue, though. What would you suggest?