Avoiding the “Pam Anderson effect:” Dating Tips for Single Parents!

Your dating life becomes a role model for your children.

Like all single parents, Pam Anderson should have love in her life!   Healthy Love makes us happier people and forms strong family bonds.  Crazy Love does the opposite:  When Pam Anderson exposes her sons to two stepfathers within a year, what message does that give them about committment?

“We promise to love, honor and obey… for at least 4 months!”

So what’s a single parent to do?

The ONLINE DATING COACHES have some fun and simple tips!

1.  GET A 2nd OPINION ON A 1st DATE!   Form an informal “club” with other single parents where you ALWAYS meet your internet dates for the first time with your friends.  

Keep it fun — meet informally for brunch or get together as a group for rollerblading, volleyball or visit a museum, etc.

Why do you need a 2nd opinion?   

Because often we get infatuated with pictures and emails and then don’t really “clearly see” that man or woman when we meet in person.

Your trusted friends will be seeing clearly, however, and will give you helpful advice.

2.   FAMILY FOR FIVE:   If you get the okay from the “club,” think of your next 5 meetings as “family get-togethers,” rather than “dates.”  

Get together for a baseball game, fun museum visits, trips to the amusement park… whatever you enjoy doing with your children.

Instead of waiting to fall in love and then introduce him or her to your children, see how your potential date interacts with the family as a friend. 

If it doesn’t work out, there’s no drama.  You’ve simply had a nice time with a new friend doing fun stuff with your kids!

3.   TRUST YOUR KIDS:   Remember how curious you were as a kid and you knew something was happening in the family even if your parents didn’t talk about it?

It was stressful not knowing, right?

Your kids have the same instinct.   So don’t hide your internet dating — get them involved in planning fun family days where potential dates can join in.

Have them help you –

A.  Check the newspapers and internet for fun weekend events in your area.

B.  Locate special festivals within a reasonable drive (Strawberry Festival, Renaissance Festival, etc.)

C.  Create great lessons by asking your children to help you prepare a budget for the weekend and then finding inventive ways to have fun and stay within your budget.

D.  Get involved with volunteering as a family — what better way to see how giving a potential date is than by asking them to spend a day with you giving to others!

We’ve got many more ideas for both singles and single parents!

Let us coach you in finding a great love for you and stepparent for your children.

www.FindingYourMateOnline.com