“I waited to long to have kids… I’m lonely… I can’t find a good man…” 

Along with the same complaints about online dating (which she’s never tried!)…

“Online Dating isn’t safe… it’s embarrassing… it’s for losers… “

DOE is certainly entitled to her opinion, but I couldn’t help but laugh when she declared at this party:

“Online Dating is a waste of money…”

Because whether or not a relationship is a good idea emotionally — it can be “A tale of two Pauls” –

“Newman“      or “McCartney”

You can quantify love it as a great idea financially!   Here’s why:

When you find your mate and marry/live together, your fixed expenses are cut in half!

Rent, utilities, cable, internet, phone, insurance, and more!

Along with the luxuries of vacations, owning a boat, pets, etc.

At the party, always a quick thinker (!), I figured I’ve saved at least $1500 a month since being with my mate and declared to DOE,

“I must have saved thousands of dollars by using online dating!”

I was shocked when someone at the party, clearly better with numbers than myself,

“Karin, you’ve saved at least $90,000.00!*”

In addition, my husband John and I have purchased two income properties, which we never would have done if single.

You don’t have to be a real estate wizard to figure out how much money we’ve made buying property in Southern California in the last 5 years.

So how much should you spend on your quest to find a mate?

I believe it’s as much as you can afford IF you like being in love AND saving money!

*$1500 a month over 5 years. 

If I live to my life expectancy, 45 more years, that’s $810,000.00 for a total of almost

a million dollars, just in savings!

Jerry reveals that he married a woman who stood out from all the other beautiful women he was dating because she was…

…nice!

“I was dating for 25 years.  Do you know how exhasting that was?  Do you know how much acting fascinated I did?”  But [his wife] Jessica, actually did fascinate him.   Of all the nice Jewish girls available to him, he says, ’she was the nicest.’

I know the importance of being nice from personal experience and I share my wisdom as a Dating Coach.

MY STORY:                   

“On our first date, John and I met at a bar and talked for hours.  I’m sure I mentioned about my dog Gator, who was, at that time, the love of my life*!  On our second date we planned to meet during the day for a walk along Venice Beach so I could bring Gator.  John showed up with a package of dog cookies.   Yes, he was trying to score, but he was also a nice guy.  And in his goal to win me, he finished 1st!” 

MY HUSBAND’S STORY:       

“We started dating and Karin caught a cold.  No big deal, but I was on my way to Cozumel for a scuba diving trip.   One night she brought over chicken soup and that Airborne stuff.  She was just so different from other women I had dated.  She was really thinking about me.”Naturally, many other factors went into the success of our relationship, including physical attraction, but, in dating:

“Nice is the cherry on top!”

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Your dating life becomes a role model for your children.

Like all single parents, Pam Anderson should have love in her life!   Healthy Love makes us happier people and forms strong family bonds.  Crazy Love does the opposite:  When Pam Anderson exposes her sons to two stepfathers within a year, what message does that give them about committment?

“We promise to love, honor and obey… for at least 4 months!”

So what’s a single parent to do?

The ONLINE DATING COACHES have some fun and simple tips!

1.  GET A 2nd OPINION ON A 1st DATE!   Form an informal “club” with other single parents where you ALWAYS meet your internet dates for the first time with your friends.  

Keep it fun — meet informally for brunch or get together as a group for rollerblading, volleyball or visit a museum, etc.

Why do you need a 2nd opinion?   

Because often we get infatuated with pictures and emails and then don’t really “clearly see” that man or woman when we meet in person.

Your trusted friends will be seeing clearly, however, and will give you helpful advice.

2.   FAMILY FOR FIVE:   If you get the okay from the “club,” think of your next 5 meetings as “family get-togethers,” rather than “dates.”  

Get together for a baseball game, fun museum visits, trips to the amusement park… whatever you enjoy doing with your children.

Instead of waiting to fall in love and then introduce him or her to your children, see how your potential date interacts with the family as a friend. 

If it doesn’t work out, there’s no drama.  You’ve simply had a nice time with a new friend doing fun stuff with your kids!

3.   TRUST YOUR KIDS:   Remember how curious you were as a kid and you knew something was happening in the family even if your parents didn’t talk about it?

It was stressful not knowing, right?

Your kids have the same instinct.   So don’t hide your internet dating — get them involved in planning fun family days where potential dates can join in.

Have them help you –

A.  Check the newspapers and internet for fun weekend events in your area.

B.  Locate special festivals within a reasonable drive (Strawberry Festival, Renaissance Festival, etc.)

C.  Create great lessons by asking your children to help you prepare a budget for the weekend and then finding inventive ways to have fun and stay within your budget.

D.  Get involved with volunteering as a family — what better way to see how giving a potential date is than by asking them to spend a day with you giving to others!

We’ve got many more ideas for both singles and single parents!

Let us coach you in finding a great love for you and stepparent for your children.

www.FindingYourMateOnline.com