Why do we continue doing what we know 

DOESN’T work for us?

I’m not talking about the small weaknesses in life that make us human, such as:

• The ample slice of “Reeses Peanut Butter & Chocolate Cheesecake” I ordered planning to make it last for several desserts.  (It did last — but I ate all the desserts in one night!)

• My pile of should-read, New York Times bestseller books on my nightstand that I blow off for guilty-pleasure-TV such as “Rescue Me,” “It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia,” “30 Rock,” etc.

• Spoiling my dog by treating him as a human — letting him sit on the furniture, sleep in my bed, feeding him from the table and sharing my human food with him.

No, I’m talking about the MAJOR life decisions that continue to F-up our lives, such as (true story):

An acquaintance who tells me he doesn’t need my coaching because he sleeps with a lot of women, but continues to email me his dating exploits such as:  

“I had yet another crack at dating last week.  She is a very smart, funny, beautiful, exciting, Delicious lady.  Being in her presence is making me feel like 16 again, I feel the butterflies in my stomach, I experience the feeling of sheer delight when being able to converse with her on many levels, but…sorry, I cannot do it.  Once again those red flags rise above my head saying: “It’s not worth it”

Being the true gentleman I am I was honest with her and explained how we should not pursue this further and how she should not blame herself.  She was somewhat surprised but was OK with it.  She appreciated my honesty….especially since she is married. ”

He’s like so many people I know (including myself) who are smart in so many areas yet continue making such monumental mistakes in love.  

Everyone knows that dating a married person is a lose, lose situation.  It’s a guarantee of unhappiness and bad endings. 

Of course, so is continuing to date someone who isn’t right for you or being fearful of online dating and spending yet another holiday, birthday, summer, etc. alone… 

At age 35, I stopped doing what wasn’t working for me — dating unfaithful men — and got my act together and used the internet to find the right man for me*!

I’d love to hear from men and women who continue their dating mistakes (including NOT dating) and why?

And if you post a great explanation –

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*It certainly wasn’t easy, but it was worth the work.  I’ve been happily married for 4 years now!

Want to know how I did it?  Well, I wrote it down in a fun and easy to follow book for you and you can start following exactly what worked for me in just a couple days!   I’ll even personally autograph the book for you!

I loved seeing everyone on their feet singing along to his songs about love — the 80-year-old black woman with a cane behind me, the Beverly Hills tweeners with their parents in front, and every age, race, nationality around me.

What’s Stevie’s message? 

We’re all looking for the sunshine of our life!

I found the sunshine of my life online and became a dating coach to help others.

Stevie inspired me to offer today’s advice: 

How to find the sunshine of your life!

• Make a list of all the things that make you happy.   (Some of mine would be:   sitting on the freshly cut grass at the park with my dog, sailing on a beam reach with an ice cold beer and good friends, eating Bertillon chocolate sorbet in Paris, reading in bed with a good book, etc.)
• Create an online ad with those descriptions. 
• Before you meet prospective dates, ask them to describe what makes them happy.
• If their descriptions don’t make you happy — pass!
• When you find someone who shares the sunshine in your life, set up a date!

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